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If you're in your late thirties to mid forties and still single, you may be asking yourself these questions. What happened to old school love? Does it still exist? If so, where is it?
If you have no idea what old school love is let me enlighten you. There was once a time when a man saw a woman, thought she was lovely and told her so. He asked her out for a movie. He made arrangements to pick her up from her home. If she still lived with her parents he made it a point to come in and introduce himself. He opened all doors, pulled out all chairs and paid for the date without hesitation. He brought her home at a decent hour and all he expected in return was the opportunity to see her again. His goal was to make her his wife. Not to add her to his team.
If you are waiting for this man you may be feeling hopeless to find love. It's not that old school love no longer exists. It's just hidden. You can still find it if you do not settle.
Here are some things that you might try while waiting for the love you desire to find you.
(1) Make a list of the things you want in a man. After you've made the list go over it honestly. Place an asterisk beside all the things that are a MUST. This means that you can not live with it or without it.
(2) Look at everything you have an asterisk by. Make sure that either you have these qualities as well or that you would be able to compliment them. This means that you can not expect to catch a generous man if you are not a generous woman, etc.
(3) Those of you looking for an old school love have to take an honest look at yourself. Are you the kind of woman that would attract this man? An old school man is NOT looking for a wretched or "ratchet" woman. He is looking for class and style. He is looking for someone who would actually appreciate his qualities. Not take advantage of them or take them for granted.
If an old school type of love is what you're after then you want to be an old school catch. In our society today this kind of love is not popular. There are more women than available men and the men who are available are aware of this disparity. They can have more than one cow and all the milk they can stomach. It's an old school cliché but it may be more relevant now than it was when it started. Why buy the cow when the milk is free?
You are going to have to stand up for what you believe in and hold onto boundaries. If you have a 90 day rule about sex then stick to it. If he does not respect your boundaries then he's not for you. This will take courage. But, if you do not set boundaries then you end up in a free-for-all relationship. Hold out for the old school love that you want instead of settling for any old kind of love just to say you have it.
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Source by Soneakqua White